a list for single people.

sarsA few months ago my young married friend told me she wants me to hang out with a single friend of hers so I can help him learn how to be happy even though he’s single. I love her for thinking I could help at all. I laugh because it’s not something a person can be taught. They have to just get over themselves long enough to find other things they want in life besides a spouse.

But I like a good challenge. So I made this:


1. Avoid/ignore people who think you need to be in a relationship/married. Avoid the ones who want to set you up with EVERYONE and avoid the ones who feel sorry for you because you are single. Run away from these people, they are not making it better.

2. Start a project / hobby / job that you find fulfilling and rewarding.

3. Do that.

4. Rinse.

5. Repeat.

Oh, I’m sorry, did you think I had some really clever advice for you? You must not have read my earlier post about how these lists make me feel like I’m not good enough. Please read that post. Then re-read this one.


  1. says

    I love this Sarah, and I love the fact that you’re saying true things: there is no way to teach someone to walk their path, it’s so much about discovery along the way.
    I have days where being single feels like a lovely gift, and days where I just want to be loved by someone romantically. But life, and God, are good, on all of those kinds of days.

  2. Shelby J says

    As a newly single individual, I love this! Even when I wasn’t single I stuck to hanging around people who weren’t so caught up in defining everything in their lives. It’s all about connecting, experiencing and loving life as the person you are in this moment.

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